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[FTWM Truths] Why I don't lunch out

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This post is dedicated to my colleagues. Many know I don't usually dine out during lunch while at work. When I do, it is usually for official work reasons (must be really good reasons like celebrating a birthday etc) or to meet up with friends I have not caught up for ages or when I am super stressed and need a breather.

IVF Diaries: Out of the game, for now.

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At the sight of the first spot of blood, I text the man. He replied, "I love you, ok?".

Round up of January 2015

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This year, I thought it would be nice to do a post, sort of to round up the hits and the misses of each month.

Infertility: What I learnt from it.

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Many of you probably know that we did not have an easy time  trying to conceive our first child. J came to us via our first cycle of stimulated intrauterine insemination or SO-IUI as some people know it. This happened after we have tried a couple of ways to get pregnant to no avail, and we embarked on SO-IUI, We had very little expectations as we have heard of low success rates doing so. We were probably much better off doing IVF.

No. I have not forgotten

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Warning: This is yet another of my emo(tional) post. And, yes. It has something to do with "number 2" . No. I have not quite forgotten the ectopic pregnancy episode that happened exactly a year ago. If you are about to tell me, please move on, then maybe you have not come close to having any fertility issues. Much less lost a child to miscarriage or other any other situations. Of course it is no fault of anyone's, so bear with me while I remember the one we lost.

5 ways to staying positive

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Source After going through quite a bit trying for a child (more so the second, non-existent one), and while we are not the worst off couple, the set-backs have brought me to tears on many occasions. Sometimes... well, just occasionally, I ask why me? But, every time I am done with wallowing in self pity, I pick myself up and move on. My mum always taught me that even if I cried myself silly, till my eyes are all swollen, the world doesn't stop revolving. More importantly, what am I going to do about it.

Is one enough? Why I still want to try.

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There's been a lot of good news coming from other mummies of late. Happy that there's going to be more kiddies as I feel that children are a blessing. However, it is inevitable at times like this to think about my own little family. To expand or not? To continue trying or not? I am not bitter (ok ok... yes... I confess, I do feel upset at times, enough to make me depressed) .  More like disappointed really. The heart is getting weak and knows not how much longer it can last before it gives up hope. When well-meaning people tell you it should get easier when you have had your first. Take it with a pinch of salt I say. There's always gonna be exceptions.  After the ectopic incident, it seemed like the so-iui treatments don't work (well) anymore. We know that we need to think about what's next and IVF  seems like the an unavoidable option. So the next question is whether or not we can be contented with just one.  I always knew I wanted at least 2 in

Family Photoshoot with Pod of Peas

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It took me over a year before I got down to getting a family photoshoot done professionally, and this decision only came after seeing so many pretty pictures of fellow mummies. And, when we finally did, I regretted not working on it earlier. I missed out on having some of J's best moments captured. Oh well, better late than never I suppose.  We researched many providers. Some had superb skill, but cost a lot since we are allowed to select only a a few pictures to keep. Some were reasonably priced, but didn't quite have the photography style we were looking for.  It was around this time, I got re-aquainted with our wedding videographer who also does wedding photography - Muse+Hues .  Lawrence,  a half of the business, happen to also be a friend and he just started his family photography arm, Pod of Peas . Mainly because of the familiarity, we decided to let Lawrence do the job. A father of 2 young children plus an avid runner, I had no doubts that he can manage

Love in the simple things

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It's valentine's day today, and this day holds a special meaning to Hubs and me. 11 years ago, we got together over kway teow soup and iced milo. Not the most romantic valentine's day, but because it was all so simple, it sort of shaped how our relationship was going to be like in the future. I don't remember being taken out for expensive dinners or being romanced under the stars. We buy gifts for each other, not for special occasions like today, but just because we feel like it.  It is precisely this simplicity that makes me appreciate this special man in my life. Trust and communication defines this relationship. All these years, I never needed to second guess what he was thinking about. Yes, I have thrown tantrums, made fuss over the littlest things. I still do really.  But this man tolerates my nonsense all because of the simple reason that he loves me. (Ok lah... although i sometimes don't trust him with the boy... but that's perhaps another stor