Focusing on the positives

We just came back from our holiday in Hong Kong, and it was a vacation that didn't quite feel like one.  All plans on what to do, where to eat etc did not materialize because it rained out on us. More on the trip in the following weeks.

While I did feel disappointed at some point, on hindsight, being away from home, gave me the opportunity to spend quality time with the hub & bub.

More importantly, it allowed me the luxury of time to reflect on things that have been bothering me for some time.

1) WORK:  It's been some time since I openly blogged about my work. Days leading up to the trip was demoralizing, where I repeatedly questioned my own ability and whether I am cut out to continue doing what I'm doing.

The amount of things to look into while on a holiday made me wonder if i should cancel the trip altogether. On the flip side, the trip taught me (once again) to learn to let go. Allow others to take control although part of me knows the project will not turn out the way it should.

I was glad that a colleague stepped up and did what she could to ensure delivery. That helped her learn on the job, which is good for her own development.  It did not, however, take away how I feel about roles and boundaries in the workplace, where respect for what I do seems lacking.

While talking to the hubs about my unease about work when lazing in the hotel, I realised it is perhaps a good thing for them to go about doing my job, for them to appreciate my work. And of course, if my absence could help another learn on the job, then it really isn't all that bad right?

 2) ENCOURAGEMENT: A young man told me not long ago that he is unhappy where he is, and have little interest in his course of study. I remembered I was one of the many who encouraged him to take the only course he was able to qualify for in polytechnic, and make the most of it. Little did I know I have indirectly caused him to be unhappy.

As a mother, I questioned myself if the advice i dished out would be the same if it happened to J. Perhaps not, as I believe he should explore other options while he still can.

However, the truth of the matter is, there will be many instances in our lifetime that's not so perfect. We will often find ourselves doing things we don't like. What really matters is how we make the best of the situation, and turn it around with our own effort. This young man may not be able to understand this now, but at least it is good to know that he has dreams. It is not the end of road, but the start to many more new things to come.

I am glad he came to talk to me, instead of bottling up his feelings, and what I can do is try to steer him to make the best of where he is now. At least I can help make things right for him in any little way possible.

The point I am trying to make here is, it is always easy to be caught up in the present, and get sucked into negativity when things don't go our way. However, it is worth to look at every situation from a different lens, and things don't look all that bad after all.

So, let's endeavour to live happily by focusing on the positives, rather than dwell on the negatives! Till my next post, have a great week ahead!

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